How important for me to have romance in my relationship ?

How important for me to have romance in my relationship with my girlfriend? I have notice since we been together she is much more open with her sexuality than I’ am. She asked me a question and I couldn’t answer it because I just don’t have an open sexual mind. She asked me, “Do you wanna have sex with me?” I said I cannot answer that. Our conversation dug into a sexual and I felt she was so much more open than I’ am, I realize were both virgins. She said I’m not romantic at all by the way how I sound. However, its not like I’m not ready for sex, I just feel so embarrassed about it because I’m afraid of being imperfect, and body shy. I don’t even know how to be a romantic man and I want to learn how to be one because I know this is gonna be a burden on our relationship. How can I make myself feel comfortable of having sex with my girlfriend and be romantic?


Thanks for the advice!


How important for me to have romance in my relationship ?
The Big 3 in relationships are: Communication, Trust and Intimacy. Romance falls under the intimacy part. You should communicate to her your feelings of self image and inexperience.





I also have a feeling, ';sex'; wasn't an openly discussed subject in your family, possibly almost a ';shameful'; subject to be talked about.





However, when she says ';romance';, she means being affection. Taking her hand, hugging her, just talking intimately with her, will help.





In the end, you should really just talk it out with her, and see if you can help each other out. How important for me to have romance in my relationship ?
If all she wants is sex then she don't like you for the right reasons. And relationships don't have to have sex in them to be a good relationship. Just tell her your not ready. If she really likes you she will understand. And about being romantic, plan nice evenings for you two...candlelit dinners, wine in fancy glasses, give her roses. And girls like the little things you do for them. Hug from behind, simple compliments, stuff like that.
Maybe she is not the right girl and this is not the right time. Perhaps you should wait until YOU KNOW that YOU KNOW! You know? Lol but seriously when it is right it will just come naturally and you won't have to do all this hemming and hawing. My advice is take a breather and focus on other things! Like improving yourself. Best to you.
Tell her you would rather surprise her with that.


It's special, and you don't wanna be scared of it.





Have a romantic dinner somewhere alone.


Like at home. If you really like her, you won't be scared.





Don't stress about it.


It comes naturally.


Good luck.
Sounds like you just need a really quiet romantic dinner. If you really like this girl but aren't sure of your sexuality take it a little slower. Consider how long you have been going out. Tell her what you feel.
It's the most important thing.
What relationship??? Doesn't sound like there is any if you cannot even answer such a simple question. Either you do or you don't. The least you could do is be honest with her and tell her what your problem is, maybe she could help you get over the stupid idea that you have to be perfect. No one is perfect. Romance is very important if you really want to have a romantic relationship. If you just want a purely sexual relationship, it is not important at all. Ask her to teach you how to be romantic.
Romance is more important to some women than others. You can be romantic without sex. Tell her how much you love her, read her love poems or if you're shy talking, show her with her favorite flowers, cook her a candlelight dinner, take her on a picnic, give her a back or a foot massage.





Romance is different things to different people but it's mostly about paying attention to what she likes, what she wants and what she needs and then giving her those things. Women like to know that their men think about them when they're apart. We always think of our men and it's nice to know they think of us too.





Sex is another thing. Try to talk to her about it. Tell her you aren't comfortable about having sex yet. She may be more open about it but I'll bet she's afraid and unsure too. Talk about your fears and at some point when you're both more comfortable with it, you can give it a go.
Romance should be used sparingly. Shower it on a woman and she'll think you're a pushover, clingy, etc.





Just like compliments.. if every other sentence has one, they lose value and meaning. After all, who cares about a compliment if it's given every minute? What's special about that?





Romance is similar. Only use it every once in a while to keep it special. As far as what romance is.. that's easy:





ANYTHING that's personal, well thought-out, and done specifically for her for that occasion in an attempt to make it more enjoyable for her is romantic. The very act of setting up a special way/time/place for you to be alone together is romantic. You don't have to try too hard...
First, romance and sex are two entirely different things.





Romance includes things like buying flowers spontaneously, sending her little love notes, leaving a quick voice mail about how much you love her, opening doors for her, taking care of her, helping her out (yes, that's romantic, lol)... those things.





What you're talking about is sex. Having sex can be romantic, but that's not your problem. Your problem is talking about it. It makes you sound closed off. Well, do you want to have sex with her? The answer is yes, not ';I can't answer that.'; Saying yes doesn't mean she's going to rip your clothes off right there. You're insecure about your body; so are most people. Just realize that she'll be more insecure than you will (women always are) and neither of you are going to be looking at each other and thinking how she need to lose weight or your butt is too big or whatever.