I've lost my girlfriend of 9 yrs. How can i show romance without showing weakness?

She says she didn't feel loved, that i used to be romantic and that's who she fell in love with, that i stopped being romantic..I think being romantic shows weakness and is kinda corny...but i love her we have a son together and i want to marry her.. but i need to win her back and need to learn how to show her that i can be the way i once was..HELP!!I've lost my girlfriend of 9 yrs. How can i show romance without showing weakness?
If you want to marry this woman you have to show VULNERABILITY....... not weakness.





Romance is good, although I don't like the corny traditional way of going about it such as getting flowers and eye gazing, I do however, would like my husband to tell me he loves me, to hold my hand, to hug me and just be a better companion.





Being romantic doesn't mean you are weak, it means you are willing to show vulnerability and if you want her back, you must show this side of yourself to her otherwise she wont take you seriously.I've lost my girlfriend of 9 yrs. How can i show romance without showing weakness?
Dude, you have to be corny!


Even super strong women love to feel adored, cherished and admired.


It isn't corny to stare into her eyes, tell her you love her and send her flowers. I am repeating myself from a previous post, but everyone needs to do this more often than not.





Better to be accused of being corny than cold...





* Telling her I love her


* Doing extra chores around the house


* Giving her a card NOT on a holiday


* Sending her a naughty text every other day


* Giving her a foot massage at the end of the week


* Making dinner once in a while


* Complimenting her in front of her friends


* Sending her to the spa for a whole day


* Volunteering with her at our favorite charity


* Doubling our foreplay time and driving her crazy


* Always making her orgasm once or twice before I do


* Staring at her for long periods without saying a word


* Listening to her stories without interrupting
you are totally confused. weakness and romance are not the same. but sometimes it is good to show that you are vulnerable to her. what you need is to take down your wall and just be you. do something you think will be sweet and romantic for her. we can't help you with that because then it isn't really genuine. stop worrying about weakness and just give yourself to her, that is if you didn't really blow it already seeing as to how she left you.
It is corny if it is insincere.





She does not want you to be courting her.





She wants you to understand and recognize the deeper aspects of her. She feels she is with a stranger because you are not recognizing her.


You have to understand her and find out how to love her.





Romance means intimacy not theatrics.
Romance shows weakness??? That's stupid!! Isn't a relationship supposed to be two people coming together, sharing everything, becoming one?? Especially if you have a kid??????





You need to change your opinion on this, guy. Until you do, you won't want to be romantic and you'll lose her.
look most men become comfortable in a relationship and for get what got them there, if u love her and want her back than u will do what it takes, u would act like a fool in front of a crowd if that would show her, the only weakness u have my friend is being to lazy to work for what u love.
You just have to show her that you are overheel in love with her, thats what she wants and its not corny because if you are inlove you are willing to make anything even the impossible just to make your partner happy, that whats matter to make her happy and she will not leave you.
love and strength are not two contradicted things.All you have to do is to show each of them on the right time. You can consult your girl friend in every matter, but let the last decisionn be yours and make her understand that. Remember. gifts can help you.
There are many ways to be romantic without being over the top and corny. Think about the little things you did in the beginning of your relationship to keep her interested...
you let the guys talk you out of a good woman it may be too late ! what ever you try to do it wont be genuine and she will notice that!
Romance is not weak and definitley not corny. You say you love her...she has told you what she needs..she needs/wants romance...what is stopping you from being romantic?
being romantic is not showing weakness that is just silly*
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