Is it normal for some guys to not be very romantic or mushy-gushy towards their girlfriend?

From the very start of our relationship, my boyfriend told me that he is not a very romantic type of guy. He says that it is awkward for him to get into the mushy gushy type of stuff with me because its just how he is. I asked him how come he only says he loves me when we are about to hang up the phone? And I ask him why I can go out of my way to do whatever to make him happy to make sure he knows I love him, and he never tries to do the same for me? His answer is that he relates it to his relationship to his father, he will say I love you to him when he is about to get off the phone with him but when they're hanging out they just don't out of the blue say I love you to eachother because that would be wierd. He doesnt feel a need to buy me gifts or presents to show me he cares. He'd rather buy something for himself before he buys me anything and I've had to ask him repeatedly to make sure hes getting me something for my bday because he hasnt in the past. But he has no problem recieving presents from me.





So I ask him how am I supposed to know that he really loves %26amp; cares about me and he says that the fact that he lets me hang out with him and practically live at his house, eat his food, and hang out when his mom is there is enough to show me that he cares. He said if he didn't love me he wouldn't want to hang out with me, he would hide me from his mom, and only hang out with me at shady times. He also says that the fact we've been together for 3 years is enough too. And thats all I could get out of him.





So my question for you guys is that is there other guys out there who are like this in their own relationships where they just CANNOT be ';mushy gushy'; with their girlfriend? Are some of you guys like this or do you know anyone, is it normal?Is it normal for some guys to not be very romantic or mushy-gushy towards their girlfriend?
Yes and no. Yes there are many guys who don't think its manly to be gushy, and often peer pressure plays a part there. Public affection is a hard one to get over, as a kid you would get laughed at or abused if you showed the opposite sex any attention, and unfortunately that immature attitude can stay with us when we are adults. Often love will overcome it, when you are so proud and sure that you want the world to know then you get over your embarrassment and finally hold hands, kiss or cuddle.


But getting back to your specific case, no hes a tool. Not saying I love you is fine, its a big step and you only want to do it when the time is right. But forgetting birthdays? And not putting any effort what so ever in? Hes at best lazy, at worst taking you completely for granted.


Telling you that being at his house proves he cares, like thats a big step? The guy is emotionally retarded, hes failing to make you feel appriciated and unfortunately its not going to change unless he gets a wake up call.


You need to make some more demands. Don't remind him about your birthday, if he forgets it shows how much he cares. When you turn your back on him and walk away you will get to see how he really feels, will he fight to keep you or let you go?Is it normal for some guys to not be very romantic or mushy-gushy towards their girlfriend?
its normal some guys dont like showing all their emotions they do that to protect their egos but if it becomes to much of a promblem confront him.
I wouldnt say im mushy gushy but I know how to be romantic and I treat my girlfriend like a GODDESS!!
I know I am. I've learned that some women hate that, for some dumb reason.
some guys think mushy gushy isnt guyly lol
You got together with someone and now you want him to change.. but it is not the way it works. You knew what he was like before so you have to accept him the way he is. If he doesn't give you gifts, then don't make him feel obligated to buy you things.. anyway, material things are really unimportant in a normal relationship. If you need all that then he is not the right guy for you but you should never try to change him.


I'm the kinda guy who is too romantic and touchy-feely kind but that is not suitable for every women.. but it is for some of them. I could only be with a woman who likes romantic guys. You also need a guy like that but you got a ';cold fish'; instead. Is it worth forcing the issue?


I mean what is your future? You want more romance but he will give you no more(almost certainly less).. You both will suffer in the long run. Just find somebody who is compatible with you.
I think its actually pretty normal, he just sounds like he's not a romantic type of guy, so i mean as long as he's not like hiding you from his friends or family, and you get the feeling he loves you then i think its fine. just try to understand, and reassure him of how much you love him and i think he'll eventually start being more affectionate.
Actions speak louder than words. If he wont say that he loves you look at the way he acts around you, like if he looks at you annoyed or pleased. Read his signs. Not all guys are the suck up type, they want to be seen as a ';MAN, with his woman';.
People show their love in different ways. Not everyone is romantic; this includes girls as well. Some people just value some things over others, it doesn't mean they care for you any less. Of course I don't know your situation exactly, you make him seem incredibly selfish and maybe he is, but maybe he's just one of those people who doesn't show his love in the most cliche of ways.
I myself am very romantic, but thats how some guys are, i think he loves you, and you should learn to appretiate what he does now and not expect more from him. he just shows his love differently. and also usually guys like that have longer relationships, and its completely normal
Sadly many men are less romantic than their girlfriends, maybe because they grew up seeing that the men in their express emotion less than the women. Some women are really attracted to men like that, the strong, silent type, whereas others like more modern, men that are emotional and in touch with their feminine side. There is also a huge amount of men between these points. If it is a problem for you that your boyfriend isn't romantic then do something about it and find someone who is more your type. Alternatively, you may decide that it doesn't matter, that you know how he feels even if he doesn't express it in a soppy way. It's up to you, girl.
Some guys act like that but everyone has feelings. I just don't think he's comfortable showing them. I for one am able to be ';mushy gushy'; but keep my feelings under raps 99% of the time.
okay well im not a guy but i hope this helps:


there are different types of guys


*ones that are romantic *and some that arent





i can understand that he doesnt say i love you as much.its cause he probably feels that yall really love each other and that you dont have to just blurt it out all the time cause yall already know that you do.


now about the presents i cant help you with that idk why he doesnt do that sorry :(


most guys arent mushy gushy
well my best guy friend always acts romantic with his girlfriend, by always remembering her birthday and buying her presents, and for valentines day he always brings her chocolates and her favorite flowers. he even once told me he will do anything for her because he loves her so much. so ya boyfriends can act all romantic. maybe urs is just to shy to admit that he loves u as much as u love him. maybe he was just raised like that.