Should i tell him? =(?

Should I tell him how i feel?


Hey, This is going to be pretty long but I need help bad =(


I met this guy thru an online dating site, at first he didn’t seem interested but after i told him more about me he started to get more interested. we finally exchanged numbers and spoke on the phone. Our conversations are GREAT…Much chemistry. However its now has been THREE months later and the convos are still great (we talk for hours upon hours, EVERY SINGLE DAY) except we never speak about ';us';. Im a fairly shy girl (afraid of rejection) unless I’m made comfy and he clearly states (every chance he gets) that he is shy as well. Therefore certain topics like sex, past girlfriends, romantic stuff, etc. he doesn’t come out and speak on them right away. And i don’t bring them up because i dont want him to think im some kind of ';fast ***'; (lol). Anyways, we went out only TWICE within 3 1/2 months (is that strange??) he never asks to see me and im too scared of bring in it up because i guess im scared of hearing NO. But if i do hint at seeing him, he claims he's “homebody”, which is true..he only works and goes to school. I know cuz he is always on the phone with me


I know it may seem weird as to why i really really like this guy, but he is extremely sweet, caring, funny (i mean hilarious) and i love a guy who makes me smile. If im feeling down, he's always there and vice versa. We never kissed on any of the TWO dates and he is sort of quiet in person , which is weird cuz on the phone we talk like two ppl who havent spoke in years (lol)


Basically, what i wanna know is:


1. Does he like me at all? (i figure he must a little, cuz my guys friends say a guy would never chat on the phone with a girl till X in the AM if he didnt like her) But is he just being nice


2. Should I tell him how i feel? ( i dont wanna scare him away because he's been hurt a lot, and i think he's scared of catching feelings for a girl)


3. Should I just wait and see (maybe let him make the first move, if he ever does lol)


and


4. Should i just cut him loose if im wasting my time? ( ive been hurt alot by men so i know a thing or two about not keeping someone around if they are just here to take up space) But keep in mind he is certainly a great guy, maybe a great friend....but i wanna be way MORE than friends with him.





Sorry this is so long, but im soooo confused by all his mixed signals...Help =(. lolShould i tell him? =(?
yesShould i tell him? =(?
you should tell him
just wait and see, it seems like he only wants you as friend, but at the same time he could just be shy. ur a girl so you let the man take charge
just move on.
1. Yes. I agree with your male friends. He wouldn’t talk to you that long if he didn’t like you.


2. Yes, absolutely!! It doesn’t matter if you’re shy or not, you have to tell him how you feel. The worst thing that can happen is one of you doesn’t feel the same way, but at least you’d know and can move on accordingly. I promise you the hardest thing to do will be to bring it up....after that you’ll realize how easy it was and will be kicking yourself for not doing it sooner


3. No. Don’t wait and see. You’ve already spent 3 months on this....don’t wait any longer.


4. Wait for this until you have the talk about how you both feel. If you have romantic feelings for him you have to talk to him and find out how he feels.





From reading your post is sounds like you have romantic feelings for him. The best thing you can do is tell him how you feel and then ask him how he feels. If he feels the same way then great....if he doesn’t no big deal and move on. And in the future, have this conversation earlier in the process....then if the worst case scenario happens you will be less hurt because you wouldn’t have invested 3 months falling for a guy who doesn’t have the same feelings. Good Luck!
tell him... because if no one will make the move then you are wasting your time and will look back when it fizzles out and realize you did it all for nothing and will regret it...if you tell him though no matter what happens you will always down the road have a peace at mind knowing at least you know what could have been... and who knows he prolly feels the same